A close look at what compels the scrolling, and how to stop. — The other day, I got some scary news about something. Hellbent on putting some distance between me and it, I went on a scrolling spree. That whole day, every free minute I had, I opened one of my Big Three (Facebook, Insta, Twitter) and went to town. When the reels…

…and my writing comes with me. — Some of us live in the same house we were born in. The rest of us eventually move — sometimes a little, sometimes a lot. Into a new neighborhood, or another state, or even a different country. By the time I was eight, I’d lived in eight different homes. …

This is a message of love and compassion to all those for whom Fathers Day is a complicated moment. If you had a difficult relationship with your father, I get it. You can scroll past the truly blessed, the ones who had and loved or still love their wonderful fathers… …

Eye Contact Yesterday I startled a cashier at Target. She spends her days working machines that measure money and spit out change — not the change we need, the change we get. Anyway, I gave her my eyes for a change. Only for a second, but for real. The kindred loneliness…

Meditation softens our resistance to what is. — This morning, I got a whiff of what’s behind my problem with ‘what is’. I went hunting for a good image at adobestock to illustrate an article I’m writing about meditation. In the search field, I typed “meditation,” then “zen,” then “consciousness”; and each time I was met with perfection…

If you blink, you might miss it. Pay attention. — This afternoon we had a moment, my wife and I. It was the same moment but in different rooms. We had it at the same time, but we didn’t have it together…at least not in the traditional sense. She’d just lost her mother whom she’d been tending to for the…

We have to do something. COLLECTIVELY. NOW. — FIRST, A LITTLE ENCOURAGEMENT: The tweet below, which appeared in in 2017, ignited an international firestorm and gave much needed momentum to a movement started in 2006 by Tarana Burke, the one who coined #metoo. Read it carefully. The response says, “If [we all responded with] ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give…

…get rid of your stuff now, so they won’t have to later. — Going through your parent’s home after the funeral is brutal. You live in the bardo of She loved this, but if I get rid of it, it’s like I’m getting rid of her. So you end up either keeping stuff you don’t want or feeling horrible about not keeping it. You have to make a million decisions. And everything is…