Why You Can’t Find the Matching Sock

This is a message of love and compassion to all those for whom Fathers Day is a complicated moment. If you had a difficult relationship with your father, I get it. You can scroll past the truly blessed, the ones who had and loved or still love their wonderful fathers… …

Eye Contact Yesterday I startled a cashier at Target. She spends her days working machines that measure money and spit out change — not the change we need, the change we get. Anyway, I gave her my eyes for a change. Only for a second, but for real. The kindred loneliness…

Meditation softens our resistance to what is. — This morning, I got a whiff of what’s behind my problem with ‘what is’. I went hunting for a good image at adobestock to illustrate an article I’m writing about meditation. In the search field, I typed “meditation,” then “zen,” then “consciousness”; and each time I was met with perfection…

If you blink, you might miss it. Pay attention. — This afternoon we had a moment, my wife and I. It was the same moment but in different rooms. We had it at the same time, but we didn’t have it together…at least not in the traditional sense. She’d just lost her mother whom she’d been tending to for the…

We have to do something. COLLECTIVELY. NOW. — FIRST, A LITTLE ENCOURAGEMENT: The tweet below, which appeared in in 2017, ignited an international firestorm and gave much needed momentum to a movement started in 2006 by Tarana Burke, the one who coined #metoo. Read it carefully. The response says, “If [we all responded with] ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give…

…get rid of your stuff now, so they won’t have to later. — Going through your parent’s home after the funeral is brutal. You live in the bardo of She loved this, but if I get rid of it, it’s like I’m getting rid of her. So you end up either keeping stuff you don’t want or feeling horrible about not keeping it. You have to make a million decisions. …

Oh, come on, I’m kidding. But we can at least do this. — (Bla bla bla, insert erudite, academically thorough, scientifically verified research about the power of the mind to create new neural pathways that benefit those who suffer with isolation, depression, eating disorders, etc. Use big words combined with little words so nobody feels left out. Make it a super irresistible intro…

Overthrowing the tyranny of Not Enough. One eyelid at a time. — How my ‘Not Enough’ enslaved me: Scrolling through Instagram, I was suddenly caught. I clicked on the video and my eyes got all swirly, just like in the cartoons. The clip was of an attractive young woman picking a tiny little strip of I-don’t-know-what off a paper and placing it effortlessly on one eyelid. You could…

…when you’ve never done it before. — (After this was written and published, Mrs. T passed away. She breathed her last at 9:20pm on April 19th, 2022. We are happy for her spirit. She fought so hard, and she suffered through a hard death. …